Well firstly, Tinder (and all the other apps that claim to be different but are essentially the same) turns dating into an online game with real life prizes. The more matches you get, the more dates you go on, and if you’re competitive you’ll start to learn how to play the game well enough to feel like you’re winning, but you might forget about why you were on it in the first place.One problem is that in the cold light of day (or the soft light of some trendy Shoreditch bar) nobody, no matter how honest they think they’re being, is the same person as their carefully curated online profile suggests.Upload pictures, send messages write diary entries and give someone a wink in your area and you may just find that spark that ignites the perfect relationship. And you simply need some guidance on how to use our features, we have a friendly customer care team available, they’ll send you guides of how to write a message, upload a photo or give you some hints and tips as to what to include in your profile.They’ll tell you to be as creative as possible, tell people about you’re your hobbies and interests, what makes you tick and what you look for in the opposite sex.
I ask myself, not for the first time after impulsively swiping right on Tinder, I’ve been using dating apps on-and-off for a few years now, and during that time it’s given me a couple of serious relationships, and many of my best anecdotes. But it has also made me miserable in ways that I would never have guessed. Countless studies like this one by psychologists Jessica Strubel and Trent Petrie claim that people who use dating apps regularly are more inclined towards low self-esteem, body image issues, and general feelings of shame and unhappiness.
“I had an abortion this morning,” or, “I was a victim of abuse” or even on one occasion, “I have cancer”.
I don’t want to sound cold-hearted, but I’m ill-equipped to deal with confessions like this.
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